Live in sin.
Don't promise to love a person forever until you've lived with them for a year. I suggest moving in together with your partner before you get married. That way, you'll know exactly what you'll have to look forward to for the next 70 years.
It is very possible that although you may absolutely adore your partner when you're out on dates together, you'll hate his entire lifestyle. I have a long list of amazing friends I've known for years that I cannot, under any circumstances, live with in the same house for more than a week.
Marriages are not built on the love you feel for your partner when they're cleaned up and putting a good mood forward for your allotted time together. Marriages are built on the love that remains even when you're both unshowered and grouchy.
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Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Tip #15
Be honest with your friends.
I learned recently that my best friend apparently "can't stand" my fiance and while I'm used to taking her brutal honesty with salt, the thing is, she wasn't honest.
My fiance accidentally read a text message from my best friend meant for another girl. To rub it in, she sent this message while hanging out and talking with my fiance.
For a girl who can tell me to my face that I look stupid or that I'm embarrassing her, I'm somewhat baffled and hurt by such a two-faced action. Why wouldn't she just talk to me about her issues with my fiance?
I've certainly done my best to be honest with her about my opinions on her romantic interests. I assumed I was receiving the same level of honesty in return and it's a little stunning that I wasn't.
While no one has the right to directly tell you who or who not to date, you should always be open to the opinions of friends and family. After all, those closest to you might have some good advice or a perspective that hadn't occurred to you.
It also brings you and your friend closer, as you get the chance to demonstrate to each other that your friendship will last through any romantic ventures (successful or failed).
I learned recently that my best friend apparently "can't stand" my fiance and while I'm used to taking her brutal honesty with salt, the thing is, she wasn't honest.
My fiance accidentally read a text message from my best friend meant for another girl. To rub it in, she sent this message while hanging out and talking with my fiance.
For a girl who can tell me to my face that I look stupid or that I'm embarrassing her, I'm somewhat baffled and hurt by such a two-faced action. Why wouldn't she just talk to me about her issues with my fiance?
I've certainly done my best to be honest with her about my opinions on her romantic interests. I assumed I was receiving the same level of honesty in return and it's a little stunning that I wasn't.
While no one has the right to directly tell you who or who not to date, you should always be open to the opinions of friends and family. After all, those closest to you might have some good advice or a perspective that hadn't occurred to you.
It also brings you and your friend closer, as you get the chance to demonstrate to each other that your friendship will last through any romantic ventures (successful or failed).
Friday, June 4, 2010
Tip #14
Agree on difference.
Some people claim that a couple need to have similar religious beliefs to be successful. Some claim it's similar child-rearing techniques, or tastes in breakfast food, or how to spend money, or books.
In my opinion, it's not the number of similarities or differences that culminates in a stable long-term relationship, it's if you and your partner have similar views on being different.
While having things in common with your partner is rarely detrimental, don't be lulled into thinking that similar tastes guarantee relationship harmony. Or the opposite, being drastically different people doesn't necessarily spell out doom for your coupledom.
The important thing is that you're both comfortable with certain differences.
For example, you could both have strong and very different religious beliefs but if you're both equally comfortable that your religions are different (and feel no need to convert the other), then there really isn't a reason you can't forge a strong relationship.
Besides, the great thing about differences is that you get to experience new things. Where would the fun be in dating someone who did everything you did?
Some people claim that a couple need to have similar religious beliefs to be successful. Some claim it's similar child-rearing techniques, or tastes in breakfast food, or how to spend money, or books.
In my opinion, it's not the number of similarities or differences that culminates in a stable long-term relationship, it's if you and your partner have similar views on being different.
While having things in common with your partner is rarely detrimental, don't be lulled into thinking that similar tastes guarantee relationship harmony. Or the opposite, being drastically different people doesn't necessarily spell out doom for your coupledom.
The important thing is that you're both comfortable with certain differences.
For example, you could both have strong and very different religious beliefs but if you're both equally comfortable that your religions are different (and feel no need to convert the other), then there really isn't a reason you can't forge a strong relationship.
Besides, the great thing about differences is that you get to experience new things. Where would the fun be in dating someone who did everything you did?
Thursday, June 3, 2010
"Getting married isn't like winning the Miss America Pageant; it doesn't all come down to the bathing suit competition."
-Melissa Bank, The Girl’s Guide to Hunting and Fishing
-Melissa Bank, The Girl’s Guide to Hunting and Fishing
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