Tip #8

A good sex life is more than good sex.

I'd wager that talking about sex is more important than actually having it. Talk before sex, talk after it, talk during it, talk about it when you're not even thinking about jumping into bed. The more comfortable you are talking about sex with your partner, the more comfortable you'll feel having sex with your partner.

That extends to porn too. I once read an article about a man who looks at internet porn being found out by his wife and all the ensuing drama (she feels he shouldn't need it, he doesn't think it's a big deal, yada yada yada)...but all I could think about was, "Had they really never discussed porn before?"

Welcome to 2010! Everyone of every gender and every sexuality and almost every age has access to internet pornography and you would be hard pressed to find someone who hasn't taken at least one little peek. Even your partner.

Being honest about porn habits will bring any couple closer together. And watching porn together is a fun bonding experience you won't want to forgo. ;)

Tip #7

Ignore the roles.

It's very easy to get caught in the relationship roles you see in all over the media. The guy brings the girl flowers. The girl gets annoyed when the guy talks to other girls. The guy pays for dinner. The girl wants to get married.

Screw that. Buy him flowers for once. Don't get trapped into thinking relationship duties are divided into his and hers. Both partners need to be attentive, loving, and honest with themselves and each other, but aside from that, anything goes!

Being in a relationship should never mean changing who you are to fit the role of "girlfriend" or "husband."