Tip #13

Take Your Time.

It often seems like women are impatient to get engaged when they're dating and then in a rush to have the wedding when they're engaged.

But if you truly intend to make your relationship a long-term one, there really doesn't need to be any urgency to tie the knot. Will it really make a difference if you get married in 3 years instead of one?

If you're worried that the will to get married will fade in 3 years, what do you think is going to happen to your will to BE married in 3 years?

Getting married should not be a goal. Not really. It should be a side-effect of a healthy long term relationship and the 'before' picture of that relationship should be as identical as possible to the 'after' picture.

I believe getting married doesn't change anything at the end of the day but your taxes.

It's tempting to believe that marriage will strengthen your relationship but in reality, if your relationship is weak to begin with, getting married will likely only exacerbate any problems. On the other hand, if your relationship is fairly stable to begin with, it won't really matter if you get married or not.

So take your time. No need to rush.